Want to Spark an Epiphany? Get Your Gratitude On!

Keep Calm & Get Your Gratitude On!

 

Keep Calm And Get Your Gratitude On!

What are you grateful for in particular today? Write it down. I’m big on writing things down. It makes you really think and physicalize it by writing it. You might have more than one thing. But keep this list tight and important – so keep this one to the top 1, 2, 3 things that you’re most grateful for today.

Choose to focus on your list all week and each day practice showing gratitude to someone, anyone, at least once. It can be a loved one you call up and thank for being so wonderful. It can be a co-worker who brings you coffee, it can be the customer service person at Time Warner who normally you might be curt with because AGAIN your service has gone out, or how about the parking meter officer who has just given you your 3rd parking ticket that week! This is one I wish I would have practiced yesterday. It wasn’t the parking officer’s fault that the parking signs are like confusing textbooks and meters don’t always work properly in Los Angeles!

What if I could have been truly gracious and been grateful that the ticket she gave me wasn’t any larger and that I have a functioning car and money to pay the ticket and that this was a small price to pay to live in a city like Los Angeles? The woman was just doing her job and maybe I could have made an impact on her had I been kind and expressed gratitude to her for doing her job rather than acting like a person one step away from road rage. I know I would have had much more peaceful impact on myself and the rest of my day had I chosen to see things that way.

See what happens when you’re practicing Mindful Gratitude (and carefully reading street signs) this week and then report back and share with us if you’d like. Mindful Gratitude is a major epiphany-sparker and can change everything when it’s a way of life.

What I Am Grateful For TODAY: (Here’s my list. Yes, the things on your list can be mundane. They don’t have to be the “biggest picture” and most profound things for this exercise – they can be immediate, the things you truly are focused on TODAY.)

1. Living  in Los Angeles and its amazing weather! 

2. I get to go to New York this week and meet with people about my work and speak and teach people about epiphanies. 

3. My health. 

One week. No matter what issues or difficulties may arise around your list. Keep the gratitude on! And see what sparks…

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EAST COAST EPIPHANY EVENT SEPT. 21!

For all you East Coasters – especially those of you in CT and New York – I’ll be speaking and teaching a new workshop at the wonderful Saraswati’s Yoga Joint on Saturday, Sept. 21 2-4:30p and would love to see you there. Join us in sparking some major epiphanies for a fabulous Fall! I can’t wait!

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Epiphanies of Poetry

Mary-Oliver-quote1The other day I woke up with the quote in my head from Mary Oliver’s poem, The Summer Day:

“…what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

And I started thinking, “Where is the poetry in my life lately?” I used to find it everywhere. I used to swim in it. It used to be part of my daily existence. But recently, I’ve been so focused on, I don’t know … Living? Making money? Worrying? The space in my heart and mind for poetry got crowded out, I guess, and when I started pondering that … what do you know … all this beautiful poetry started appearing.

On a random Facebook posting of someone’s I read this,

“I’d cut my soul into a million different pieces just to form a constellation to light your way home. I’d write love poems to the parts of yourself you can’t stand. I’d stand in the shadows of your heart and tell you I’m not afraid of your dark.”
~ Andrea Gibson

I’d never heard of Andrea Gibson and thought this was so elegant and gorgeous. So I looked her up and discovered this amazing woman performs her poetry – and you can watch her do it.

Going to watch poets was one of my favorite things to do when I lived in Austin, TX. I’d go to Ego’s and experience the poets do their thing. (Now the Austin Poetry Slam takes place elsewhere.) It was so inspiring and exhilarating. I wonder what those poets who held me breathlessly captive in that dive bar are doing now. They were housewives and software salesmen and teachers and plumbers and all kinds of people in their “day” lives who would show up every Wednesday night and express life so vividly, so viscerally through poetry spewed forth with intense vitality, humor, truth, and plain sheer guts. You just felt so fully alive when you left. Like they’d plugged you into their electricity of observation and source, so you felt what they felt but also felt your own stuff. They opened you up to observe and feel in your own way. They even inspired all us lay peeps in the audience to write our own poetry. (At least this one lay person.) I hope they’re writing and performing still — releasing that kind of passion and intelligence into the ethers can only make the world a better place.

A few hours after I discovered Andrea Gibson’s poetry, I went on a walk in my neighborhood and when I’d almost arrived back home, I ran into two butterflies doing a dance. Just right there on a street under the Hollywood sign, with garbage dumpsters and me as their audience. I watched them for a while and had to try to take a few photos to capture the magical butterfly dance. I noticed their shadows dancing with them below. It seemed to go on forever, and they never got tired. I wonder how long they continued before resting or if they ever did …

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See their shadows? ^

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Then this came my way via the wonderful Brain Pickings:

“A poem begins with a lump in the throat; a homesickness or a lovesickness. It is a reaching-out toward expression; an effort to find fulfillment. A complete poem is one where an emotion has found its thought and the thought has found words.”
~Robert Frost, Letter to Louis Untermeyer, 1916

“Heed the words of Robert Frost.  Start with a big, fat, lump in your throat, start with a profound sense of wrong, a deep homesickness, or a crazy lovesickness, and run with it.  If you imagine less, less will be what you undoubtedly deserve.  Do what you love, and don’t stop until you get what you love.  Work as hard as you can, imagine immensities, don’t compromise, and don’t waste time.  Start now, not two weeks from now.  Now.”
~Debbie Millman

Yes. I don’t think I need to expound upon this. I know I don’t want to.

Take what you want from these poets and their work: Mary Oliver, Andrea Gibson, Robert Frost, Debbie Millman and the butterflies. That’s what it’s for. (And you can end your sentences with prepositions if you want to, too… in poetry, anything goes.)

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The Post-It Epiphanies Experiment

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In May, I spoke at Jennifer Pastiloff’s yoga retreat in Ojai about epiphanies and Jen is big into using Post-its for different exercises. (Don’t you love Post-its? What did we do before they were invented? And btw, do you know the story of how they were invented? Uh-huh, an epiphany was involved and you can read it HERE.)

At the end of my talk and Q & A, we had everyone write down in one or two sentences one of their greatest epiphanies in life or an epiphany that they would like to have on a Post-it and then when we were finished, they could go and post it up for everyone to read (or they could keep it for themselves or throw it away — there’s never any pressure on this) — they’re all anonymous.

Below are some of them that were hanging on the kitchen wall of the retreat center that we all got to read. As you can see, anything goes (an epiphany can be a moment of realization or an experience or a person that gives you that epiphany moment) and all are powerful for different reasons. I loved this Post-it Epiphany Experiment and will probably use it moving forward or use varying form of it. (It reminds me of one of my favorite projects: PostSecret — on a much smaller, less artistic scale of course.)

And of course, you don’t have to attend a workshop or talk to write out your own epiphany for yourself. (I highly encourage you write out the whole story at some point!) But you can always just do what we did this day and take the one or two sentences that summarize and remind you of it and write it on an index card or post-it. Then hang it on your wall, put it on your desk, keep it in your favorite book, lay it in your bedside drawer, or place it anywhere you can glance at it from time to time to remind you of one of the times you were so inspired or touched that your life was changed, and you did something about it. It’s powerful, try it.

(Some of the post-it epiphanies have “subtitles” under them just because sometimes they’re a little hard to read.)

Post-it Epiphany - Accomplishment Do Not = Me

Post-it Epiphany - Asthma for Attn. My Biggest Epiphany in Life: when I realized that I started having asthma as a kid because I wanted attention.

Post-It Epiphany - No Prince CharmingPost-it Epiphany - Move + Husband

Epiphany Post-it- COP to YogaEpiphanies: 1.) To become a Yoga Teacher while in a cop job; 2.) To move to California (had this realization when I was 15) and moved here when I was 21.

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post it epiphany - taking the 1st stepEpiphany: Commit to the First Step. 🙂
(Epiphany for life came through running.)

Post-it Epiphany - MotheringMy epiphany is that by mothering my son, I am mothering myself. (My mother died when I was 5.) This helped me relax into mothering in a way that feels natural to me.

Post-it Epiphany - Jennifer Pastiloff Post-it Epiphany - Path to YogaEpiphany: Allowing myself to travel down the path of Yoga and all it has brought to my life.

Post-it Epiphany - Letting Go of Guy

Epiphany: Waiting for a guy with commitment issues and was reading an article by Carolyn Hax (Washington Post) that said “sometimes lack of an answer is the answer.” Later that night, that quote popped in my head and I realized that the fact that he didn’t know if he could or could not commit was my answer. Said “Peace Out!” to him!

Post it Epiphany - Understanding of Father

Epiphany: A tragic event in my father’s life when he was 8 years old, had impacted him  and his family to such an extent that emotionally, life froze at age 8 for him. Fast forward to present time: he is 87 and a successful doctor, but my understanding of the event totally explained some of his behavior and has allowed me to forgive and accept him, and this has changed my life.

Please know that if you ever want to submit an epiphany to Epiphany Channel but want to leave yours anonymous — that’s perfectly fine, just let us know. And if you want to join us at another Jen Pastiloff Yoga Retreat in Ojai, you can do that in a few weeks over Labor Day! You can join us in Epiphany talks and post-it notes, Karaoke Yoga, excellent organic meals and optional cooking classes (see pics below), Manifesting Exercises, laughter, friendships, poolside lounging, wine and olive-oil tasting, good ole R&R and who knows what else you’ll manifest and have epiphanies about…

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An Epiphany from One of the most Beautiful Thank You Notes EVER.

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I don’t know about you, but I’m BIG into “thank you” notes. I was raised in the South where they are just something you do. You thank people properly with a note. When I received this particular unexpected thank you note (keep reading, it’s below) in my website’s inbox recently, I wept. I received it on one of those days where nothing was going right and nothing I did seemed productive and I sort of had the feeling that it may NEVER turn around. You ever have those days? Well, I do. And this day was a doozy of one. Then I opened this email.

Time stopped the second I read, “When I was 18 years old, I stepped off of a curb and I got hit by a bus. I almost died, but thankfully, I lived…”

When I finished, I sat there for a second in the time freeze and then, I wept. Hard. And you know what? I had an epiphany. I was so moved by this beautiful epiphany by Margaret Westley and marveled that she actually got hit by a bus! (I always use the euphemism, “What the hell? I’ll do it. I could hit by a bus tomorrow.”) Well, not only has Margaret actually gotten hit by a bus and lived to tell about it, but she had an epiphany because of it and is thriving. And on top of that, she took the time to write about it and then thanked me — thanked all of us. Her example of gratitude is breathtaking to me. Right after I read her note, I broke into tears because she gave me the gift of hope and recognition and gratitude on a day that I felt insignificant, at a loss, and stuck. She told me my work mattered. To her it did.

“To know even one soul has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson (or Bessie Stanley)

That quote rang out to me. Margaret made this one life breathe easier. She was writing to thank me and others for their work that inspires her and in doing so, she became the source of inspiration and strength. It all ripples out and circles back. The epiphany for me is that it really does work that way and with this project I get to witness it constantly. And it also is an example of never knowing whose life you are touching with your work, actions, thoughts and deeds. It brings home how important it is to be diligent and aware of what we are doing and how amazing it can be to simply take a second, put forth a little effort and send a little gratitude to a person who has helped you in any way — maybe given you a gift or word of encouragement, treated you to dinner, made an introduction, shared some information, or just touched your life in a completely random way. A little gratitude goes a long way…

So thank you, Margaret. Thank you for the gift you gave me, for sharing your epiphany with us, and for your living example of gratitude.

How can we all show our gratitude today? And to whom can you write a thank you note in your life? Handwritten ones are always wonderful (and rare these days, making them even more special!), but emails are great too. And check out Paperless Post – they have some beautiful, fun ways to send Thank You notes.

Below is Margaret’s epiphany and note. Margaret came across my work through the magnanimous Jennifer Pastiloff, who gives out some of my handouts in her workshops if I can’t be there to speak. You can read Margaret’s whole story on Jennifer Pastiloff’s blog HERE.

Dear Epiphany Channel and Elise,

When I was 18 years old, I stepped off of a curb and I got hit by a bus. I almost died, but thankfully, I lived. As a result, I broke my right ankle and badly damaged my left limb which eventually had to be amputated six inches below the knee. I am thankful every day for this accident because it was not until I got hit that I learned how to live.

Today, we are hearing news stories of things like bombings in Boston and constant suicide bombings in the Middle East, and had all this happened before my accident, I would not have been tapped into the fact of shared global pain.

Life is short. That’s one epiphany of many, and tomorrow — heck the next five seconds(!) — is not guaranteed, and because of so many people and an inner strength, I am here today and I can stand. I can stand not only in a physical sense, but I can stand with my beliefs and a new found voice. I can stand with compassion, possibility and love, because I truly believe that is what will work in helping to heal ourselves and others. I feel though, more importantly than the epiphany of life being short, that there is the importance (to me personally) in expressing my gratitude to people of this world–whether I’ve met them or not because I feel we all have a need to know we matter.

So, with that said, thank YOU so much for your work, and for dropping into a creative space to question, to believe, to feel, to seek. It’s people like you who inspire me to get out of bed in the morning, put on my leg, and go out into the world, to get off whatever high horse I may be on, skip the unnecessary ego, and be a better person for the sake of this world and a brighter future.

I know there have been so many who have come before me, and so many people now who are doing much needed work, and that said, I realize that within my short span of life thus far, I am learning (sometimes slowly) to live it, and to say, “thank you.”

With peace, Margaret Westley

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